Change in us

"I will be leaving Singapore and moving to London," Divya beamed. "I am getting married in June. My gosh, it's such a hassle."

Even the happiest, best matched couples got through difficult patches in their relationships.

People are often surprised to find out that stress levels rise even when nice things are happening. Marriages, moving house, holidays require planning and preparation as well as expense and changes in routine.

Throughout life, our needs, outlook, ideals and sometimes our personality, modify and change. A couple who marry in their 20's and stay together for the next 20 years will be very different people not simply at the end of it, but at stages along the way. As we change, so we require different things from our relationship.

I still believe that to be able to accommodate these changes in our relationship, requires the elements of humour, respect, effort and flexibility.