Saturday, September 29, 2012

Dealin with hard times in relationships

I've found that when my personal relationships are strong it makes me stronger in all other aspects of my life. But when my personal relationships are troubled, my life strength weakens like a bridge with a cracked infrastructure.

I look at people I know who are doing well in life, people wo seem confident and well-rounded, and then I look at their personal lives. In most cases, I see that they have a strong foundation from which to operate. Those who fall in the face of adversity often do so because when they reach back there is no one to take their hand.
 
I don't claim to have any magic formula for dealing with hard tmes in a relationship but experts say that communication is the most important aspect. Most rocky times in relationships stem from misunderstandings and misinterpretations rather than a lack of love and appreciation.

 

 

Saturday, September 22, 2012

If everything is important, nothing is

"Perhaps hurting my knee has a silver lining. I stayed in-house this week and converted quite a few groups," Clarice pointed out.

In my past life, I've frequently worked with having too many top priorities to achieve the level of focus my team needs to succeed. Wanting to cover all my bases, I established a long list of disparate objectives nd spread my team's scarce time andeergy across them all. The result is almost always a lot of initiatives being done in a mediocre way and a failure to accomplish what matters most.

I came to realize this somewhat by accident: If everything is important, nothing is.

1 thing has to be most important, even if there are other worthy goals under consideration. For me, the question these days is, What is most important, right now?

 

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Most important things are hardly ever urgent

"These days, I spend 15 to 16 hours working," iAngel lamented.

We may think that we spend more time together today, but do we really, or are we simply in the same place together more of the time? The world is full of people living together alone.

We all want to have great relationships, but we get distracted by all the urgent things. We rush around endlessly doing all these urgent things, and if we are not careful we will rush around doing urgent things for the rest of our lives.

The problem is, the most important things are hardly ever urgent, ie relationships, physical, emotional areas of life. And that is why we have to place them on our schedules, because if we don't we simply won't get around to them.

Saturday, September 8, 2012

People developer and talent cultivator

"We were trying our best but you don't seem to appreciate and yet said we were pussyfooting around," the feedback was blunt and brutal.

That was 1 area where I failed to put myself in other people's shows and see things their way. You might say I was arrogantly naive.

On the other hand, there are are occassions when I don't pull punches just to avoid hurting other colleagues' feelings. Getting an entire group to excel is worth any number of offended peers. Maybe it is best to simply accept the fact that excellence upsets some people. It always has and always will.

My leadership role has changed from order-giver to people-developer, from authoritarian boss to talent cultivator. Nowadays, I noticed that the most effective leaders work hard at showing people how to find their own solutions, and then get out of the way.

Monday, September 3, 2012

Selling = problem solving

I went to COMEX this weekend looking for a PC. I ended up with a HP PC, Creative speakers and subwoofer, Samsung, blu ray dvd player, Samsung LED TV and Samsung soundbar. Adam was the sales person who attended to me.

Supersalespeople are extremely attentive to each client's needs and totally intent upon seeking an ideal solution to each client's unique problems. In the end, such individuals are problem solvers. They are the ones who solve problems better and more quickly than their competitors.