Sunday, April 19, 2020

Taking stock

Zoom is the king of the quarantine economy. Usage of Zoom has grown 1,900% since December as large numbers of people stay connected while practising social distancing and has even spread into personal space through weddings and “zoom parties”. It is now worth more than American Airlines, Expedia and Hilton combined. 

Boy, does 2020 feel different. The hope so many of us felt in the 2010s was gone, and in its place was a creeping dread about the future.

Most important here and now is the concept that a crisis is often one of life's "wake up" calls. It often takes this alarms going off before we become fully conscious of where our lives have been heading.

In these dizzying, depressing days of lockdown and restricted movement, that's what I needed. I needed to remember who I was, where I came from, what I believed, and why I fought so hard and so long for it.

Success has always been my primary focus and at one time, I had defined success as being financially independent. I slowly began to understand that it was not really money I was after but rather the things money could buy. I looked at all the things I had accumulated and realized that this success did not feel as good as I believed it should. But if life was not about getting rich, then what else was there?

Can you imagine how shallow it would be, if at your funeral, all anyone talked about was how great your abs were, or your lovely hair, or how sleek your car looked, or how avant-garde your apartment was? Yet these are the exact things most of us spend our time working on, worrying about, and wishing for.

I'm not suggesting folks should be unconcerned with how they resent themselves to the world, or that they shouldn't be able to enjoy the fruits of their success.

No matter where you find yourself at this moment you, too, can begin the renewal process. Who we are and where we want to go determine what we do and what we accomplish.

Ask enough people what they want in life and you'll hear happiness as the overwhelming response. We want to live more meaningful lives. The happiest people I know are people who have a sense of mission. They have a joy that nobody can take away from them. Even in the middle of tremendous trials, they still have an enormous capacity for joy. They have a sense that they are in the right place at the right time doing the right thing. Their lives make sense to them. Does life make sense to you? Are you at peace with who you are, where you are, and what you are doing? Is the ladder you're climbing up leaning against the right wall?

The trouble is in the knowing.

Your unique mission may involve raising a child, becoming an effective leader or loving someone with all your heart. Our greatest strength is our ability to make a difference in the lives of other people.

Life after COVID-19 will be different. Your family situation may change. Market conditions are constantly changing. We also change internally.

Things are going to be hard for a long time. But we are going to be okay. All of us. This is the power of the powerless.





Sunday, April 5, 2020

Moments matter

How to get out of the coronavirus lockdown? An immunity passport. The UK's Health Secretary Matt Hancock suggested that anyone who've had the virus, have got the antibodies and therefore have immunity might be issued with a certificate and can return to a more normal life.

Perhaps half the world's population is living some form of restriction to help curb the spread of COVID-19. Marriott has just issued an inspiring message: We will travel again. Soon, we will step out from behind our screens and explore this wonderful world once more.

For me one of the greatest joys in life is travelling. Can you imagine a life without travelling? What a weary, weary life it would be.

If you had told me while I was in secondary school that I would travel to 233 cities across 48 countries in the world, the idea would seemed nothing more than absurd to me. I am constantly in awe of the life I am living. There are a lot of hotels and airports, it's sometimes a hassle to find a good meal, something or someone is always running late, there are a lot of wake-up calls at 4.30am, and the glamour of travel wears off very quickly.

We travel because, no matter how comfortable we are at home, there's always a part of us that wants - that needs - to see new vistas, buy new souvenirs, try new food, learn new words and have all the other travel adventures that make us want to kiss our doormats when we finally get home.

We all have defining travel moments in our lives - meaningful experiences that stand out in our memory.
 We do not remember days. We remember moments.

Research has found that in recalling an experience, we ignore most of what happened and focus instead on a few particular moments. Moments are what we remember and what we cherish.

Most parents don't take their kids to The Wizarding World of Harry Potter just for the place or event itself, but rather to make that shared experienced part of everyday family conversations for months, and even years, afterward.

This is what I hope you take away from this article: We can be the designers of moments that deliver happiness, pride and connection. These extraordinary minutes and hours and days - they are just what make life meaningful.