Talking - too much and not at all

"I don't want to talk about it," crooned Rod Stewart on the CD player.

I personally believe that talking about the things that happen in our day is an important element in communication.

However, some people just adopt an attitude of not talking at all. This is a way for them to avoid an issue that is upsetting them. They retreat into silence, or go out, than to risk talking (and eventually quarelling).

There are others who talk about the same issue too much - going on and on about something they want changed - that it becomes nagging. They tell someone else what they think should be done: "You never..."; "You always..."; "I hate it when you..." and so on. But saying it over and over again is not communicating. Repetition won't get anyone where they want to be, in fact it will have the opposite effect of making the other person "go deaf."