Love after marriage

"What happens to the love after you get married?" William asks me.

Every married man I know would like his wife to be happy in her marriage. many of the husbands I meet feel that they have sincerely tried, but have been unsuccessful. Some blame their wives, others blame themselves.

When we were dating, we were in love. That "in love" led us to the altar because we wanted the feeling to last a lifetime. Unfortunately, all research indicates that the "in love" evaporates over time.

Most of these men are fairly intelligent people. With all the books and communication workshop available these days, why is it so few couples seem to have found the secret to keeping love alive after the wedding?

Some break up at almost the first sign of trouble; others aftre many years, even decades of marriage. Other cling together forever when clearly there is no love.

But remember this: most things worth having are gained through a great deal of effort and concentration. It is a tall order, perhaps the most difficult thing I will ever do, but I keep this mindset. Do it right and it most likely be by far the most rewarding. Learning to handle love and the problems that comes with it will make you a stronger and more confident person, as well as benefiting your relationship.

12 years of marriage...Sept 14, 2008