Saturday, June 5, 2010

The issues

"We had a row again," WL moaned. "He always thinks he is right about everything."

These are the things that couples often argue about:

Money...who pays for what? why don't we have more money? why do we spend so much?

Children...who disciplines the children, and how? how many should we have, and when?

Family...who has to do the caring when a parent is ill or old? whose relatives should we visit, especially at Christmas and Chinese New year?

Work...why do you spend so much time at work? how come you don't have a job? why do you insist I take (or don't take) a job?


Just sometimes, solving these issues is enough to resolve the conflict. The husband gets a job and the fighting stops. Almost always though, there are much deeper-layer reasons.

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