A totally freeing thing

"My wife would nag me to clean the air-con filters," Frankie moaned. "And she won't stop until I do it."

Marriages are hurting if they are characterised by nagging, cutting sarcasm and ridicule. Ridicule devastates the inner personality, destroying, tearing and cutting great chunks of self away. A marriage characterised by derision, belittling, contempt and the scorn of ridicule is grotesquely twisted.

When people are ridiculed, they pull their heads inot their shells and do not venture to stick them out again. Then they change, and ley the real person inside them never to truly known. But to know and be known is essential to love, marriage and relationships.

To be accepted unconditionally by another person is a totally freeing thing