Delayed enlightenment

"I just want to be happy," Ms Foo answered when I asked her what it was that she wanted out of her relationship with her Caucasian boyfriend. But she could not define what that meant. She really had not worked out in her mind what it would take to make her happy in a relationship.

I feel we need to know what we want out of a relationship. We can't expect to figure it out as we go.

It is one thing when we are courting each other and holding hands. It's something else altogether when we are snoring in each other's faces. When we get married there are lots of things we learn that we didn't know before.

A lot of people blow relationships because they expect people to change for them. People don'tchange unless they want to change. We should make sure what our bottom line is up front.