Sunday, August 14, 2016

It's difficult to wait but worse to regret

Joseph Schooling, who left home at age 14 in pursuit of a dream many labeled impossible, has delivered Singapore's first Olympic gold.

Life is made up of hopes and dreams. The great people of history dream without limit and seek it with unrelenting energy.

It takes courage to dream. Whether it is asking a girl out on a date, starting a business, battling a disease - everything in life requires courage. Most of us are afraid. Afraid of losing the things we have worked hard to buy, afraid of failure and rejection, afraid of criticism, afraid of heartache, afraid to tell people how we really feel.

The need for courage is at any age: how can I manage my job and move up the career ladder? How do I get off this career ladder and retire? Who will I be without my identity as a sales leader? Of course, what seems like courage in our earlier years may look different in our later years, simply because we don't always stay afraid of the same things.

It is easy to become so busy worrying about the future that we forget to live our dreams. The pursuit of the dream fills us with hope, passion and enthusiasm. When we stop dreaming, we slowly begin to disengage from our work and our relationships.

My life has been filled with so many dreams come true, and for that there are many people I am grateful to. Mentors, colleagues, friends made considerable contributions to my journey. If you look back on your life, I suspect you will also discover a variety of people who, to varying extents, have helped you along the way. These people who took an interest in you and your aspirations no doubt had an enormous impact on your life.

In various aspects of our lives, we also encounter other people who need to be challenged and encouraged in the direction of their dreams. "Give to others what you most desire for yourself,"a mentor once told me. If you want to be appreciated, appreciate others. If you want your work to be valued, value others'work. If you want a successful career, help another's career to flourish. I have played my part in helping people in my past and present teams advance personally and professionally.  I take pride in my accomplishments, large and small.

Success has many facets. Marriage might mean success for one, misery for another. For me, success can never be about just what I "do". It's also when I can laugh, love and to feel happy about the tiniest things. It's having a peaceful mind and some blessed downtime rather than knotting myself in frustration, especially when things fall apart. If one goal doesn't happen, it's natural to feel disappointed or angry. But, I still focus on being grateful for the other blessings I''ve been given. I don't always succeed at this, but I am learning.




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