$2.3 billion in free advertising. That’s how much its
estimated Starbucks saved when a coffee cup was spotted in a Game of Thrones
episode sitting on the table in front of Daenerys Targaryen. Eagle-eyed fans of
HBO’s fantasy epic noticed something out of place during a feast scene. Photos
and videos of the moment went viral on social media within hours of the show
airing.
Are you a noticer? Do you notice things that other people overlook?
It has been said that our biggest opportunities will probably come into our lives disguised as problems. Problems can jolt us out of our predictable routines but only to introduce us to a life of new possibilities. In the end, we probably profit more from suffering than we do from success. We must be ready to look for and find good in all the situations of life.
People are something like wildflowers. Their goodness and beauty can be so easily missed or taken for granted. Sometime everyone should pick a wildflower and study it carefully. There are delicate veins in its leaves. The petals are so fragile. It has a beauty all its own. People, too, need a closer look.
Our desire to please is born from our need for affirmation, encouragement, and acceptance and the need to belong. I have known people who try to please everyone - parents, children, friends, colleagues, boss, partner - and end up completely miserable themselves.
We can begin by examining our motives. Why are we doing it? Is it out of a sense of obligation or guilt, or do we genuinely feel called to do it?
I know parents who still clean, shop, wash and in some cases, make beds for their grown children. It's unhealthy for the children and parents. It creates a situation of control and codependency. On the other hand, I know parents who have flown across the country in emergency situations to take care of an adult child who was ill, and this became the birth of a new and deeper relationship between parent and child.
This raises one of the ever-present questions in relationships. How much should we give?
When a relationship is going well, the question seems unimportant and perhaps irrelevant. While the other person is giving freely, we seem willing to give without restraint. But when the other person becomes self-absorbed, we don't know if this is a passing phase or a permanent disposition and the question looms in our hearts and minds. It is easy for us to feel that we are being taken advantage of, even used.
Instead of silently expecting something and feeling slighted when it doesn't happen, let go of that expectation. And when you do something positive, do it because you genuinely want to rather than loading in the added weight of what you expect in return.
You end up sticking yourself with resentment, regret, anger or frustration. Remember, they're not doing that to you, you're doing that part to yourself! You can really accept things for what they are.
Let me be clear about this one. This is not some meek, weak submission to life. Not, this is becoming masterful with your mind and your emotional state rather than succumbing to your internal upsets.
Our lives, our happiness really are in our own hands. The expectation of people loving us or respecting us is a pointless exercise. I try to free myself from the burden and melodrama of expectation; let the chips fall where they may. Love the life I have, not the one I expect to have.
Are you a noticer? Do you notice things that other people overlook?
It has been said that our biggest opportunities will probably come into our lives disguised as problems. Problems can jolt us out of our predictable routines but only to introduce us to a life of new possibilities. In the end, we probably profit more from suffering than we do from success. We must be ready to look for and find good in all the situations of life.
People are something like wildflowers. Their goodness and beauty can be so easily missed or taken for granted. Sometime everyone should pick a wildflower and study it carefully. There are delicate veins in its leaves. The petals are so fragile. It has a beauty all its own. People, too, need a closer look.
Our desire to please is born from our need for affirmation, encouragement, and acceptance and the need to belong. I have known people who try to please everyone - parents, children, friends, colleagues, boss, partner - and end up completely miserable themselves.
We can begin by examining our motives. Why are we doing it? Is it out of a sense of obligation or guilt, or do we genuinely feel called to do it?
I know parents who still clean, shop, wash and in some cases, make beds for their grown children. It's unhealthy for the children and parents. It creates a situation of control and codependency. On the other hand, I know parents who have flown across the country in emergency situations to take care of an adult child who was ill, and this became the birth of a new and deeper relationship between parent and child.
This raises one of the ever-present questions in relationships. How much should we give?
When a relationship is going well, the question seems unimportant and perhaps irrelevant. While the other person is giving freely, we seem willing to give without restraint. But when the other person becomes self-absorbed, we don't know if this is a passing phase or a permanent disposition and the question looms in our hearts and minds. It is easy for us to feel that we are being taken advantage of, even used.
Instead of silently expecting something and feeling slighted when it doesn't happen, let go of that expectation. And when you do something positive, do it because you genuinely want to rather than loading in the added weight of what you expect in return.
You end up sticking yourself with resentment, regret, anger or frustration. Remember, they're not doing that to you, you're doing that part to yourself! You can really accept things for what they are.
Let me be clear about this one. This is not some meek, weak submission to life. Not, this is becoming masterful with your mind and your emotional state rather than succumbing to your internal upsets.
Our lives, our happiness really are in our own hands. The expectation of people loving us or respecting us is a pointless exercise. I try to free myself from the burden and melodrama of expectation; let the chips fall where they may. Love the life I have, not the one I expect to have.
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