Learn to accept you can't change your partner

"The trouble is I am realistic and he is too ambitious and not realistic," Hy moaned.

take it from me...1 of the things I learn from long-term relationjships is that you can't really change your partner. That's like trying to stop the wind. Life is easier when you give up trying.

But here's another bit of wisdom: both men and women change over time. Some quite a lot. Although we can't force someone to change, there is a deep, slow, natural transformation that occurs with maturity and age.