Panic buying in the supermarkets.
Panic selling in the stock markets.
There is absolutely a correlation between the hoarding of toilet paper and selling out of the market. Fear is a rational response. Just as anger is the rational response for when, let's say a colleague double-crosses you in a business deal. Or when you're treated unfairly, manipulatively or with disrespect, especially when it's intentional. Also feeling unappreciated, feeling threatened. When your partner can't or won't love you anymore, when a friend goes after your job. Depending on the circumstances, anger may range from getting mildly peeved to homicidal rage.
Good people give you happiness. Bad people give you experience. Worst people give you a lesson. Best people give you memories.
The very thought of letting someone walk away scot-free from what they've done makes us sick. We want to see the scores evened and the playing field leveled. We want them to bear the weight of what they've done, not us. Forgiveness seems like the ultimate betrayal of yourself. You don't want to give up the fight for justice after what has happened to you. The anger is burning inside you and pumping toxicity throughout your system. I know that feeling. I know the second heartbeat that is fury.
But here's the thing with anger: we stay angry because we want justice. We assume that the angrier we are, the more change we will be capable of incurring. Anger doesn't realize that the past is over and the damage has been done. It tells you that vengeance will fix things.
When we're seething, forgiveness seems impossible. We want to be capable of it, because intellectually we know it's the healthiest choice to make. we want the peace forgiveness offers. We want the release and yet we cannot find a way to get there.
Because here's what they all fail to tell you about forgiveness. It's not an eraser that will wipe away the pain pf what's happened to you. It does not undo that pain that you've been living with and grant you immediate peace.
Forgiveness means knowing the past is over and the destruction left in its wake can never be reconstructed to resemble what it was. Forgiveness is the decision that restoring your own peace is finally a bigger priority that disrupting someone else's.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to make amends with who hurt you or validating what they have done to you. It means you're done waiting for the person who broke you to come put you back together. It isn't about letting injustice reign. It's about getting back on your feet and deciding that the rest of your life isn't going to be miserable because of what happened to you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you are giving up all of your power. Forgiveness means you're finally ready to take it back.
Panic selling in the stock markets.
There is absolutely a correlation between the hoarding of toilet paper and selling out of the market. Fear is a rational response. Just as anger is the rational response for when, let's say a colleague double-crosses you in a business deal. Or when you're treated unfairly, manipulatively or with disrespect, especially when it's intentional. Also feeling unappreciated, feeling threatened. When your partner can't or won't love you anymore, when a friend goes after your job. Depending on the circumstances, anger may range from getting mildly peeved to homicidal rage.
Good people give you happiness. Bad people give you experience. Worst people give you a lesson. Best people give you memories.
The very thought of letting someone walk away scot-free from what they've done makes us sick. We want to see the scores evened and the playing field leveled. We want them to bear the weight of what they've done, not us. Forgiveness seems like the ultimate betrayal of yourself. You don't want to give up the fight for justice after what has happened to you. The anger is burning inside you and pumping toxicity throughout your system. I know that feeling. I know the second heartbeat that is fury.
But here's the thing with anger: we stay angry because we want justice. We assume that the angrier we are, the more change we will be capable of incurring. Anger doesn't realize that the past is over and the damage has been done. It tells you that vengeance will fix things.
When we're seething, forgiveness seems impossible. We want to be capable of it, because intellectually we know it's the healthiest choice to make. we want the peace forgiveness offers. We want the release and yet we cannot find a way to get there.
Because here's what they all fail to tell you about forgiveness. It's not an eraser that will wipe away the pain pf what's happened to you. It does not undo that pain that you've been living with and grant you immediate peace.
Forgiveness means knowing the past is over and the destruction left in its wake can never be reconstructed to resemble what it was. Forgiveness is the decision that restoring your own peace is finally a bigger priority that disrupting someone else's.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to make amends with who hurt you or validating what they have done to you. It means you're done waiting for the person who broke you to come put you back together. It isn't about letting injustice reign. It's about getting back on your feet and deciding that the rest of your life isn't going to be miserable because of what happened to you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you are giving up all of your power. Forgiveness means you're finally ready to take it back.
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