"KOREAN WAR TO END! The United States, and all of its GREAT people, should be very proud of what is now taking place in Korea!" Trump tweeted on Friday, claiming credit for accelerating diplomacy between the two Koreas.
Every moment is another chance to turn it all around. Too often we spend our days and weeks waiting for some future experience that we have fantasized will erase all of our problems and make us happy. In the meantime we are missing out on life, moment by moment.
If we want our lives to be different, we have to make it happen. All the thinking or meditating or planning isn't going to improve our lives if we're not willing to take action and make changes.
Although sometimes we don't play any role whatsoever in the difficulties we face, often our difficulties and disappointments do come from our own mistakes and weaknesses. If we can allow ourselves to be honest, that's just a fact. For example, we overcommitted and are now in a jam, or we did something that we told our partner we would stop doing.
We can't learn from a mistake or prevent it from happening again when we are still blaming someone else for causing it. We need to take that mature step to acknowledge whatever role we played in the setback.
Most mistakes, failures and difficulties follow a particular pattern:
...something happens...we react to it emotionally...we feel embarrassed/horrified/struck with fear/etc...we hang on to the thoughts about the event that lead us to continue to react emotionally...we accept our feelings, untangle our thoughts and the negative emotions dissipates/the situation blows over.
What can we do differently the next time so that this doesn't happen again? And how can we repair relationships that may be damaged due to the situation? To whom do we need to make an effective apology? Who do we need to forgive?
When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.
Every moment is another chance to turn it all around. Too often we spend our days and weeks waiting for some future experience that we have fantasized will erase all of our problems and make us happy. In the meantime we are missing out on life, moment by moment.
If we want our lives to be different, we have to make it happen. All the thinking or meditating or planning isn't going to improve our lives if we're not willing to take action and make changes.
Although sometimes we don't play any role whatsoever in the difficulties we face, often our difficulties and disappointments do come from our own mistakes and weaknesses. If we can allow ourselves to be honest, that's just a fact. For example, we overcommitted and are now in a jam, or we did something that we told our partner we would stop doing.
We can't learn from a mistake or prevent it from happening again when we are still blaming someone else for causing it. We need to take that mature step to acknowledge whatever role we played in the setback.
Most mistakes, failures and difficulties follow a particular pattern:
...something happens...we react to it emotionally...we feel embarrassed/horrified/struck with fear/etc...we hang on to the thoughts about the event that lead us to continue to react emotionally...we accept our feelings, untangle our thoughts and the negative emotions dissipates/the situation blows over.
What can we do differently the next time so that this doesn't happen again? And how can we repair relationships that may be damaged due to the situation? To whom do we need to make an effective apology? Who do we need to forgive?
When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.
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