4 compliments for every criticism

In the movie "The kids are all right" Jules told Nic that the reason she had an affair not because she is in love, but rather she was to be appreciated.

Guys tend to be bad at paying compliments and way too good at handing out criticism.

Men need women. And more particularly, we need her. We should try to show that we do. Give her compliments more often. Don't stop at looks. Praise something that she's done.

Compliments make her feel appreciated and loved. Criticism doesn't change anything; it just makes her feel defensive, which leads to fights and life-long grudges. Take your pick.