Grow in defeat.

"United have shown in the past that one heavy defeat need not be the end of their title campaign - they famously lost 5-0 to Newcastle in 1996 but ended up cruising to the title - but Ferguson admitted the club has been suffering from the drubbing by City at Old Trafford last Sunday" reported teamtalk.com

My father has always preached to me the importance on mental toughness - a "winning habit" that enables us, leaders to ride out the inevitable setbacks and bumps in the road.

Likewise, I regard highly individuals in my team who got stronger and gain resolve when they lost. I want people around me who found ways to grow in defeat. Such individuals are a rare commodity but if I could assemble a handful of people who could react to adversity that way - who could "use defeat as a stumulus to tougher effort" - that would be the core of a magnificent team.

Eating together - evocative ritual

from left: Dad, Unc Paul, Albert, Bernie, Aunt Cat, Felicia, ACE

Grandma celebrate her 93rd birthday over the weekend. We celebrated over lunch and again sat down to dinner together.

Eating together is one of the most evocative rituals that bond individuals as a family.

Emotional crippled couples

"Paul McCartney married his American bride, nacy Shevell, on a London Sunday afternoon,"reported Y! Music.

Some keep marching down the aisle with one new partner after another, trying desperately to find one understanding soul mate who will create happiness for them. But they seldom find it.

Many couple become emotional cripples because they have convinced themselves they have a right to happiness and that their spouses are morally obligated to create it for them..

Play the cards as best as we can

"We attract what we think and feel," Dr Ilhaleakala wrote.

True believers claim the power of prayer. It has also been called positive thinking, visualization, and mind over matter.


See it and be it. Believe it, and achieve it.
Let it be.
Just do it.

I always play the cards as best as I can, and let the chips fall where they may.

We all have something special

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That was the headlines mourning Steve jobs in the Bangkok newspaper.

As a kid I used to love to draw pictures. Later I turned to writing, then finally wound up as a sales leader. The only business school I ever knew was a naive passion to make something out of nothing.

Not everyone can run a company or make millions or be called a genius. But I believe, we all have something special and unique that can change lives for the better.

Real wellness

"I do yoga and meditation," Khun Karanee pointed out. "It helps me get away from this crowded world."

For me, wellness is not only a state of body but a state of mind. I revel in my good health nowadays.

I made a conscious effort to increase my intake of fruits and vegetables. Smoking has never been a problem because I' never started on it. I had reduced my intake of alcohol and carbo. I plunged myself into spending some time in the gym.

I feel better than I have in years, perhaps better than I've ever felt in my life. That's real wellness.

Feel good

"I feel happy when I see those people I am angry about suffer. That's the way I am nowadays,"MY shouted venomously.

I suppose if someone said, "Look, I'm a terrible person and I like it that way; leave me alone,"there isn't much to tell him. But chances are, I sincerely believe, he wouldn't mean it. Most people are unhappy about making themselves miserable; there is usually a severe inner struggle going on.

So when I do something that makes me feel bad inside, I ask myself whether that's the way I want to feel. If not, I stop doping what makes me feel that way. Instead I do the things that make me feel good about myself.

A parent's words

"I hope Gerald doesn't get married when he grows up. I am so afraid he will change,"Cynthia confessed her fears.

Whether or not we like it, parents have enormous power for good or bad, especially with our words. By frequently speaking words of discouragement, we tear down a child's self-confidence.

Although the rudder of a ship is small, by controlling it, the ship's captain guides the direction of the entire ship. This holds true for our lives personally and for our parenting. A parent's words can help guide our child. I always try to guide ACE with my words and plant seeds of greatness in his life.