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It's 11 days since gramma died.My aunt is having "caregiver withdrawal". She's tsruggling to define the strange feelings that accompany all her memories of all the things that were so hard to do. And she's trying to learn to let go of some memories and accept the relief that she feels without guilt.The 1st thing she should learn is that the journey continues.

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From left: Fernando, Chris, Patrice, Jeff, Nancy, DaveLast month I posted three job vacancies on JobsDB.com. I was overwhelmed by the number of people who applied.Work is not everything, but when you're doing work that doesn't engage you, or worse, work that you despise, it can massively affect every other aspects of your life. Ideally this means finding work that you are passionate about, but

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Grandma was cremated today.Grief has come. This is my 1st real time at it and I'm a novice. It's like trying to play a game without knowing the rules.Since gramma became bed-ridden over a period of 3 years, I had time to brace myself for her death. Time to say "I love you." Time to do what I needed to do, what I wanted to do. I had time to come to closure, to deal with many issues long repressed.

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My grandmother Cecilia, died at her home on 22 Jan 2012 - Chinese New year eve - surrounded by those who loved her and those who cared for her. I wish to honour these people.These were her children, my parents and uncs and aunts, who for the past 3 years, bathed her, helped her to eat, attended to her medications, helped her dress. They had encouraged her, cajoled her, been annoyed with her,

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"Sometimes when you are not interested, you tend to show it," Ah leng rebuked. "Listen" with your eyes. Look deeply. Mirror your interest - not the far-away look of preoccupation.Our speaker is speaking because he/she wants us to listen. I find that when I listen more attentively - the speaker will pay more attention to me.

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"Should leaders apologize? Is it a good leadership skill? The absorbing discussion centred around these questions up at Amer Fort.Many leaders mistakenly believe that admitting wrongdoing and asking forgiveness from their subordinates will strip them of their ability to lead, or weaken them in the eyes of the others. Quite the opposite is true. In fact, the very thing the leader fears - loss of

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"Our Friday presentation will be about the 4 disciplines of execution," the email started.People only become critical of those who are not willing to try; they usually overlook lower-than-usual results if they see that you are sincere in wanting to improve.

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SG344 touched down in Jaipur yesterday at 14.30One of the greatest forms of education is travel. I now make it a practice to travel and experience the lifestyle and culture in a different region of the world at least once a year. A trip can combine geography, art and music in one comfortable package.

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"I have no response from him 2 days to an email I sent him," Brenda wrote in an email to me.An article of wood or metal or glass can achieve nothing. Set on a mantel in a fine home or on a mountaintop for all to see, it will never, by itself, plow a field or tend to a sick person o cook a meal. An object can inspire, arouse, prove, encourage, justify and confirm. But it can never

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I visited Mani Bhavan yesterday. That's the house where mahatma Gandhi lived from 1917 to 1934.I recalled reading about a story of a mother who brought her young son to mahatma Gandhi. She begged, "Pleae Mahatma. tell my son to stop eating sugar."gandhi paused, then said, "Bring your son back in 2 weeks." Puzzled, the woman thanked him and said that she would do as he had asked.2 weeks later, she

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The opening sentence in the GM of Capella's message was: "We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day." ~Edith Lovejoy PierceIn this 1st hour of January 2012, I recall january 1987 when, at 23, I left home to start my career in Kuala Lumpur as a computer operator with American

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"There comes a time we need to show our colours too," my namesake Paul advised.These days, most leaders like to talk about compromise and accommodation.To be sure, such actions are appropriate in some situations. But the fact is that leadership also requires a willingness to be aggressive. In a small minority of situations, an aggressive attitude is necessary in dealing with people.

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"I do it really well, because I love what I do," Han said at Coffee bean when both our flights were delayed.Enthusiasm is a low-budget word used to describe those with passion.A recent cross industry study found that it is the single most important factor differentiating "outstanding" from "good" sales performers.

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from right: Shirley, Diana, Winnie, Peter, Pauline"You have to love what you do," Winnie suggested.To maximise our potential in whatever we do for a living, we need to get into that mental state in which our focus is most intense, in which we trust our abilities, experience and the work we've already done. The best performers enjoy everything about what they are doing, including their routines.

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"I eventually joined and am working with my ex-boss again......5 years after we went separate ways," Patty V proclaimed happily. In today's fast-changing business environments, the future belongs to those leaders who can best manage change, but to manage change, we must have committed associates in our team - team members who do their jobs like they own the company.Will employee commitment

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"I am not sure if this is the right place for me,"Ollie admitted.You need to ask, "What do I want? What makes me happy? What doesn't? Where is my strength, where is my weakness? What can I make the greatest contribution in my life, in my job, in my relationships?"There's nothing sadder than to see someone get to be 75 or 80 years old and look back regrettably because they pursued the wrong target.

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"Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there."Knowledge is only useful when put into action.This reminds me of the story I heard when I was a kid: There once were 4 people named Somebody, Everybody, Anybody and Nobody. An important job had to be done, and Everybody was sure Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry

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ACE learned to cycle today.It should be noted that most of the effective lessons that a child needs in order to be prepared for life are taught rather by example than by angry or severe words. When we wish to teach a child how to blow up a balloon, we do not give a set of verbal instructions, and expect the child to absorb them. A child is more an imitator than a thinker. So we blow up the

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"My daughter broke down and cried. She couldn't finihs her maths paper," Koh revealed.No matter how much knowledge a student has, if he cannot put it all down on the paper within a certain time limit, his knowledge will not be reflected in his grades. In general, we are accustomed to judging a winner in relation to time. If after a certain period of time, that person doesn't lift his game, it'll

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"I never know if she dresses for the nightclub or the office," Steve growled.For women, fashion suggests that you should be noticed, "make a statement" with your wardrobe. The message of the business world is just the opposite: fit in, be appropriate; stand out not by what you wear but by what you achieve.

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"United have shown in the past that one heavy defeat need not be the end of their title campaign - they famously lost 5-0 to Newcastle in 1996 but ended up cruising to the title - but Ferguson admitted the club has been suffering from the drubbing by City at Old Trafford last Sunday" reported teamtalk.comMy father has always preached to me the importance on mental toughness - a "winning habit"

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from left: Dad, Unc Paul, Albert, Bernie, Aunt Cat, Felicia, ACEGrandma celebrate her 93rd birthday over the weekend. We celebrated over lunch and again sat down to dinner together.Eating together is one of the most evocative rituals that bond individuals as a family.

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"Paul McCartney married his American bride, nacy Shevell, on a London Sunday afternoon,"reported Y! Music.Some keep marching down the aisle with one new partner after another, trying desperately to find one understanding soul mate who will create happiness for them. But they seldom find it.Many couple become emotional cripples because they have convinced themselves they have a right to happiness

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"We attract what we think and feel," Dr Ilhaleakala wrote.True believers claim the power of prayer. It has also been called positive thinking, visualization, and mind over matter.See it and be it. Believe it, and achieve it.Let it be.Just do it.I always play the cards as best as I can, and let the chips fall where they may.

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iSADThat was the headlines mourning Steve jobs in the Bangkok newspaper.As a kid I used to love to draw pictures. Later I turned to writing, then finally wound up as a sales leader. The only business school I ever knew was a naive passion to make something out of nothing.Not everyone can run a company or make millions or be called a genius. But I believe, we all have something special and unique

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"I do yoga and meditation," Khun Karanee pointed out. "It helps me get away from this crowded world."For me, wellness is not only a state of body but a state of mind. I revel in my good health nowadays. I made a conscious effort to increase my intake of fruits and vegetables. Smoking has never been a problem because I' never started on it. I had reduced my intake of alcohol and carbo. I plunged

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"I feel happy when I see those people I am angry about suffer. That's the way I am nowadays,"MY shouted venomously.I suppose if someone said, "Look, I'm a terrible person and I like it that way; leave me alone,"there isn't much to tell him. But chances are, I sincerely believe, he wouldn't mean it. Most people are unhappy about making themselves miserable; there is usually a severe inner struggle

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"I hope Gerald doesn't get married when he grows up. I am so afraid he will change,"Cynthia confessed her fears.Whether or not we like it, parents have enormous power for good or bad, especially with our words. By frequently speaking words of discouragement, we tear down a child's self-confidence.Although the rudder of a ship is small, by controlling it, the ship's captain guides the direction of

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After 6 years in primary school preparing for this, ACE finally completed 2 out of his 5 PSLE papers today.For the past 12 years, as a 1st time parent, I would find myself automatically doings things my parents had done. Some things were good, others were less effective, and some were clearly not good at all. I am very thankful to my parents for their love and support, which helped me enormously,

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"Patrice has mentored many people over the years. She has brought those people higher and higher," Gail announced proudlyNo matter what level of leadership we're on, we need a peer, mentior or confidant whom we can trust implicity. The world is full of people telling other people what to do or thinking they know what's right for others. Great coaches don't tell people what to do.So how do we find

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"I had the blues because I had no shoes; until upon the street I met a man who had no feet" This inspirational quote was on a laminated poster in Book World Dubai.We seldom think of what we have but always of what we lack. I have recently begun to count my blessings - not my troubles!

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"I will be joining a new company next month," Xiao Hua announce. Dream jobs don't come to those who sit and wait. The name of the dance is "attitude". It's that positive and active attitude that lands jobs and enhances careers.

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"My boss doesn't support me. I fear if I continue on, my health will suffer," Nguyen confided in me.My friend, take it from me: if you don't like the work you're doing or the company you are in, you are headed for trouble. You will eventually transfer that dislike to others and to yourself.Having a job most suited to our needs and capabilities is improtant. A total immersion in our job is also

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"I have worked out the pricing and it looks high," Lay Ling started. In Lay Ling's view, the greater the shock of the entry price the more effective the tactic.I love every minute of a negotiation.For some people, if they are buying, they go in low -really low and going in high - really high - if they are selling.It is a fact of negotiating life that the majority of us will not persist with what

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"People ask, What does it mean to be a hero? I define heroes as those who do ordinary things but in an extraordinary time,"reflected Joseph Pfeifer - Chief of Counterterrorism and emergency preparedness, NYFD. "That's what the fire fighters did. They went up and did ordinary things. Ordinary things, but it was at this extraordinary time."He who has a why to live, can bear with almost any

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"Our next big thing in Singapore is going to be huge," Anthony declared, giving a hint of what he's about to launch.Opportunity is not the same as action. Predicting is 1 thing, doing something about it is quite another.

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Today is September the 11. 10 years after 9/11.Not being able to cry is not one of my problems. My eyes well up during a sad or emotional scene in a movie. I know this doesn't sound professional, but when that happens, I know I am alive.The "cool"man is very macho, aloof and always in control of his emotions. I feel sorry for a "cool"man, who, of necessity, must hide behind a mask to be real. I

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"I think Benny is having midlife crisis,"Kim pondered.Everyone will have some type of midlife experience. By the time most people are 47, they have taken a pretty big hit below the water line - a divorce, a death, betrayal by a trusted friend or colleague, the loss of a job, a health event. These things do tend to make us think about what really matters in our lives.

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"Would you like to be a speaker at our next conference?" the email from the organiser started.I realise that public speaking is one of people's greatest fears; most people would rather crawl through a snake-filled swamp than to talk in front of a crowd.But if you're a remotely successful adult, chances are you've had to speak in public at some point. It might be a sales pitch to a customer. It

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"I bought a new Blackberry from Singtel, then I saw it offered in Comex and the weekend ads for a better deal. I have complained to Singtel and I am going to do it again,"Chloe was visibly upset.Statistics shows that only 5% - or 1 in 20 customers - complain to anyone in Management. For every ONE problem where someone has taken the initiative and perserverance to complain to someone at the top at

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"Where is the favourite place you have been to?" Melissa was curious.People always ask me what my favourite places are in the more than 40 countries I have travelled to. I have many favourites, but as I reflect on why they are my favourites, I discover that it is the people I know in those places that attracts me to them. When you have travelled as much as I have, you come to realise that it is

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"Long queues to buy the 60,000 books on offer at half-price. Mr Mohamad Fahmy ismail, 45, who was there since 9.30am, waited for 3 hours to pay for about 15 books," reported The Straits Times today. We mortals never seem to have enough time or money. We try to get more of each and start by fearing we will secure neither. How many times has the word "FREE!" taken our attention? Time is money to

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"I can't stand him. He is Mr Know-It-All. He pretends to omniscience," Anh sounded irked. While it's bad form not to know what we clearly should, it's no shame fessing up to not knowing something we'd like to know or need to know.

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Don't miss what is happening now while waiting for something else. There is nothing fundamentally wrogn with our lives or our present challenges. I always try to play the cards I am dealt, and play them well, until I get dealt a new hand. I live each day on purpose, one small step at a time. We never know what surprises await us.

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ACE achieved 88% in his Maths prelims...finally beating his long time buddy's score of 82% Commitment is the parent of determination and determination is the one quality I find common in the lives of all successful people.

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The lacquerware I bought from HCMC were a great bargain. A jewellery box for only 80,000dong. But wifey just found out that it's grossly full of defects Most of us have been overseas to buy some souvenir, only to discover that while it's cheap, the workmanship is poor. Only quality people produce quality work. When it comes to salary, an overwhelming majority of people feel they are

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"This cannot be done. We don't do paper RFP," Elle snapped. We all know negative people - or "negatrons"- in the workplace. They're the people who are contritutionally incapable of saying something positive or complimentary to any suggestions. You could walk into their office with the cure for cancer and the 1st words out of their mouth would be, "Let me explain why that won't work." This is

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My colleagues from Jakarta and Melbourne came to say g'day. They are in town for our Marketplace tradeshow event on Thursday. When we return home from trade shows, there's all the things that are stacked up while we were at the show. We, sales leaders who attend trade shows are often overwhelmed upon returning home and focus on daily activities to most avoid the show follow-up. On the contrary, I

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"Britain's top officer said he expected around 3,000 people to face the courts over the riots,"the Economic Times reported. Restlessness grows like a cancer. It can choke the life out of us, in the form of workaholism, divorce, throwing in the towel and quitting our jobs. I see far too many people out there: working in jobs they hate, often because they are operating out of their weaknesses,

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"The London 2012 Olympic football is to be called The Albert because of cockney rhyming slang - with Albert Hall (a London landmark) meaning ball" reported The Guardian. I now realise that the way we feel loved is usually the same way we express love. A person from Singapore speaks the same Chinese as a person from Malaysia, but their dialects can be so drastically different that they may not

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"I'm sorry Paul. I really am," Sharifah apologised profusely in her sms. Forgiveness, I have since learned, is a gift that means more to the giver than it does to the receiver. When we deal with someone else who has offended us.....forgive the offender and move on.

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The TODAY ON SUNDAY paper ran this headline today, "Hey, Big Spender". The story is about the people who chalk up over $50,000 a month on their credit cards - and whom the banks are all out to woo.What separates the New Rich from those who save it all for the end only to find that life has passed them by?Here's what I have recently learned: Being financially rich and having the ability to live

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"Showing love in every way. That is one of my criteria for a boyfriend," Sue Chie said blankly.Making the effort when things go wrong is common and quite expected, but, putting effort into love even while it is good builds it up for the future.

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"I can't seem to think of any memorable childhood moments with my father," KC admitted.I have come to recognise that although many people love their parents and have good relationships with them, others do not. But I think everyone wants to. Every child, whether young or old, wants to love and be love by his/her parents.

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"I have been a GSA with MI for 20 years," Charles declared.Dissatisfaction sometimes can be the motive of true progress. Dissatisfied with the pen, man invented the printer; dissatisfied with the chariot and locomotive, he invented the airplane.Past laurels must be put aside as we press forwasrd. To stay complacently where we are is to be a caterpillar that stay without enjoying the glorious life

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"How has it been so far for you?" That was a common question asked to me the past 5 weeks.Us, 21st century leaders are focused on more than just the bottomline: we have a keen sense of our organisation's values. We align in that direction and build organizational commitment to common goals.A key element for success, I would think, is out ability to win people over to our side. Selling ideas and

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"No. 1 is the inability to talk honestly with each other, bare their souls and treat each other as their best friends."That was what one of the leading US family and divorce law attorneys said when he was asked what is the single biggest reason couples spilt up.Many people develop the habit of putting down their partner's feelings, opinions and desires. We want our feelings, needs and opinions to

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"Ron loves to run, pass the ball to him. Do you know he's 50+? he puts both of us to shame,"Burt told me as we jogged back to the centre circle.What will I have to do to run up and down that right flank like Ron? I asked myself.Get a leg transplant, I answered. For a startAt my age, the hardest thing to do is to accept what you are and not torture yourself with visions of what you used to be.

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"No system of tactics can lead to victory when the morale is bad,"Jomini declared.Creating a positive sense of morale is one of the most important and difficult tasks a leader faces. Little can be accomplished without a positive attitude.As a leader, my 1st task is to get an accurate picture of the state of morale of my team. After that, I act, addressing what appears to be the most pressing

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Undercover Boss is a TV franchise series that is based on a senior executive of a company working undercover in their own firm, doing the job of a subordinate. When a leader takes over the job of a subordinate, sometimes he learns that he's not as good at the job as the subordinate. Nothing wrong with that! We don't have to be as good as our subordinates. We just have to be willing to take the

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"Which of the two presenters - Phil or Ed - do you find better?" Marian wanted to know.My experience tells me that we need credibility to teach. They have to think we know what we're talking about even if we don't!Teaching presentations are never the same. Audiences always have different levels of understanding. the most important skill for the trainer is to keep the people engaged and this

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from right: James, Vlad, Kamran"The Red devils have been busy in the transfer market, piecing together a squad they hope will be competitive at home and abroad in 2011/12. Over GBP50million has been splashed out on Phil Jones, Ashley Young and David de Gea, with Sir Alex Ferguson addressing key areas in his side."reports The New Paper today.The 1st step in building a winning team is to get the

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"He doesn't like football nor sports. I am so happy I found him because all my friends' husbands would be on the TV with their remote control the whole weekend," Kirstin enthused about her husband.All of us hunger for a love that will stay intimate and secure, yet encourage our individual fulfilment. Freedom and intimacy are to a person what sun and water are to a plant.The question is how to

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"Rivalry can hurt your relationships," Maggie wrote.Unfortunately, many men feel threatened by their wives' abilities. A number of men are intimidated if their partners get more phone calls than they do.We did not become a couple to compete with one another, but to complete one another.

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"Crowdsourcing is the act of outsourcing tasks to an undefined large group of people or community (a crowd)." So says Jeff. There are 4 types of crowdsourcing strategies: crowdfunding, crowdcreation, crowdvoting, crowd wisdom.The very idea of transforming people demands that we think about and apply a word seldom used in the corporate world today: wisdom.We need wisdom to distinguish real

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"I have been in Dubai for 9 months now and my wife still works in Tampa, Florida," James tells us about how hard it has been for him. I can associate that feeling. I have been away from my loved one for 1.5 weeks now.The statement "the amount of time you spend with your partner is less important than the quality" is a myth. Studies shows that 90% of couples who considered their relationship "

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"Put the fish on the table," Phil related to us what his Swedish business partner told him. "Because if it's under the table, after some time, it begins to smell."Building trust is only possible when we are totally up front with our customers.Never try to trick customers - it can only damage relationships with them and with anyone else who hears about it. And with the exponential growth in social

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"I have got feedback for you about two members of your team," Margie began.......At the back of everything we leaders plan, we will need to drive behaviour. many companies dream, many companies contain people who come up with potent ideas, but very few companies complete and execute. This is because they never get the attitude right.Beginning to get the attitude right, then, is my 1st purpose.

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Old Ebbit Grill, where I had an amazing dinner is situated beside The US Teasury Department.Money is so easy to understand in theory that many people would do a good job of handling it in life, isn't it? But they don't.In many families, financial matters become a war zone not only between parents and children but also between parents and parents.Most efforts by most parents to teach kids about

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Chris was given an award for his 20th year in the company.Most new sales leaders don't last more than 4 years. Some are fired for incompetency; others become stressed out or choose to go back to the field as salespeople.I know people who are those 4-year leadership casualties.Sales leadership is not for everyone, certainly not for the faint-hearted. Not all our decisions are popular, or

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A majority of my EST colleagues has been with the company for 20 years and more. The reason: the environment encourages personal development and growth.I don't get sidetracked by the challenges of the present. I constantly remind myself of where I am going. As the saying goes, "Sing like you don't need the money." I behave as what I will be tomorrow, not as what I am today.

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"I go camping with my wife and children. It's a tradition," Chris enthused.We then went on to ask this question: "Can you recall something that your father or mother did with you when you were a child that makde you feel really good about yourself?"The answer to this question gave me insights into what I as a parent can pass on to my child now that will make a significant difference to his

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I spent a day with 20+ of my new colleagues in the same room today.We want to make the right and best impression we can on others, especially the 1st time we meet them. Many experts consider facial expressions the most important nonverbal behaviour of all.That's why when I want people to feel as if we are both on the same wavelength, I match their emotions. It really build empathy.

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"My daughter has gone to Spain for 6 weeks to study Spanish. My son is 16 and is taking up golf very seriously," Gail told me. "I have aboy who is 10 and a daughter who is 8. My son loves sports and mechanisms while my daughter loves ballet. They are so different," Chris shared. "I just got married last year and we plan to have kids only at the end of next year," Fernando chipped in.Newborns are

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"That's the problem with my daughter. She has only 1 friend," Alex lamented.I encourage my boy to be open-minded to try new things - new food, new activities, new friends. I do thins by role-modelling my willingness to try new things.I sincerely believe the more we can expose our children to diverse experiences, people and places, the richer their lives will be.

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I do not get defensive when my boy catches me misbehaving. rather I take advantage of the situation. Like when I was caught using a bad word, i explained I was wrong. I made a mistake. Children learn everything we do. When we speak in a calm voice instead of an angry one, we teach our kid how to stay calm when provoked. When we apologise for using bad language, we teach our kid to take

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"Congratulations on your new position. Sounds exciting." Eli sent me a message through LinkedIn.The overall approach to my grand vision in career and life is making the absolute most of every opportunity I have. My greatest success and prosperity has always and will come from my ability to create my own breakthroughs.I believe major breakthroughs come from the correct mind-set. It's an attitude.

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"Tin Pei Ling resigns from senior consultant job to focus on MP duties." Today's TODAY newspaper reported. "The firm, where Ms Tin has worked for the past 4 years, confirmed her resignation."I, too, have worked 4 years in my present company. Today is my last physical day at the office.Many employers and employees alike seem to believe there is no longer any such thing as loyalty, at least in the

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"Honestly, stealth mode is not one of my strongest," Po, the Kung Fu Panda said in the sequel.The fact is, we all have our weaknesses, and if we try to cover them up, we'll probably put ourselves in a situation of having to do more and more of what we aren't good at. So, I am never afraid to admit my weaknesses and limitations.

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Johor Baru. Melaka. Now Kuala Lumpur. 3 cities in 3 days. Those who travelled and experienced local culture are the fortunate individuals who scored big. Even the inspiration for Starbucks came from its founder's love of European coffeehouses.Anytime I am outside Singapore, I spend some time walking the streets and watching what's happening, particularly with the young.

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"Heard the good news, congrats and wish you the very best with your new role. I heard you are selected from over 80 candidates. I am sure you will do extremely well." Emmanuel sent me a message on LinkedIn.I beamed as I thanked him for the well-wishes. My brand image which I have created in my work-life is this: I am 1 of those people with guts and vision, a person who want to change the world

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"Why a husband never give surprise n gifts for all occassions to the wife?" This questions was posted on Yahoo Singapore Answers.I think it refers to surprise flowers or gifts that are connected to nothing but the desire to surprise and delight. Giving our loved one surprise flowers - or any thoughtful gift - is an unspoken message that lets her know we are thinking about her, and that we went

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ACE and his friends got together to de-stress after their mid-year assessments last Tueasday.As the twig is bent, so is the tree...and so they say. It is interesting, when one sees children, to speculate from the way they act as to the kind of homes from which they come. I think, as one can judge the vitality of a tree from the fruit it produces, so one can tell the character of the parents from

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"We lost US$27 million in Australia in Q1 because of IT problems," Steve revealed. "Thankfully, we have a few customers who spoke up on our behalf."I have organised events where our existing customers mixed with prospects. A customer bragging about our service/products beats our salesperson's presentation any day.front row from right: Natalie, Davidback row from right: Chloe, Albert

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"How much do you actually like your partner?" Sarah asked .Like seems a rather weedy emotion compared to love, but as Sarah explained, it is one of the most important components in making a relationship last. It might seem surprising, but Sarah argued that some people fall in love with partners they don't like very much.Complex, though it may seem, I tend to agree with what Sarah said. If two

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Sir Alex, sharing in the 19th title celebrations, is already thinking of ways he can improve his squad or extract better performances from those already in his ranks.Many leaders mistakenly believe that their primary responsibility as a coach is to provide feedback and encouragement. I personally believe that prior to doing all that, a leader/coach's responsibility is to prepare his team to

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Today is mother's day.Mothers are often taken for granted. In truth they work so hard to accomplish so much. Among a mother's roles are: head chef (prepares food), hostess (serves food), caretaker, teacher, Miss manners (monitored etiquette), moral guardian, social secretary (juggles child's social schedule) and manager. It is breath taking when we contrast with Dad's two: conversationalist with

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ACE is 12 today. We have to pay full adult price for him at buffets from today onwards.Parenting isn't a science. In a lab, we get to control all the variables. At home, we are lucky if we get to control the TV remote."Children are from heaven," so wrote Dr John Gray. I agree...ACE is a gift from God. He can be exhausting, maddening and irritating - but he is still a gift. He can be funny,

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"Today is my second day at my new job," Vic said over the phone. Picking the winning job and organisation isn't quite as obvious as it sounds. Even the most talented manager could fail by taking the right job at the wrong time. Wait for the right opportunity has always been good advice.

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"It's not good," Simon announced. "The doctors stitched her back. They said it's beyond what they can do. We are discharging her from the hospital tomorrow and bringing her home."My aunt is in critical condition. I am assaulted by my own feelings. My own mortality is much more an issue with me since I have moved into the position of being the generation next to die. Time has a different meaning.

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ACE, captivated by the movie score, watched the movie The Magnificent Seven with me yesterday. The movie is about an oppressed Mexican peasant village assembling 7 gunfighters to help defend their homes.We often allow others to treat us unfairly because we do not want to confront or challenge them. We tell ourselves that we are above engaging in conflict over unimportant trifles. Many of us were

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Why did you turn there? Why are you late? Why did you forget to do this? Why did you do it that way?These are all the type of questions which shouts, "I wouldn't have turned there, been late, forgotten, done it that way."Eliminating threatening "why" questions is a means of helping our loved ones feel our acceptance. And in acceptance, freedom. And in freedom, love.

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"One of my key goals is talent development. We are growing so quickly I am constantly looking for good talent. I can't develop them inetrnally fast enough," Dom revealed.Too many leaders are empire builders who try to arrange things so that they appear indispensable. They don't share information, let alone train their staff.I train and groom my own replacement. I am a teacher, coach and mentor. I

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Today is Easter Sunday. I liken Easter to this little story about how a mother hen and all her chicks were walking around the kampung when a storm blew up. The mother hen gathered all her chicks under her and sat on them as the rain began to fall. As the storm worsened, it started hailing. The hail came down so hard it beat the mother hen to death. Yet, after the storm, all the chicks crawled out

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"As managers and leaders, respect for people is fundamental to engaging them and getting things done," Nagesh wrote in her blog.Respecting people sounds very good on paper, but putting it into practice is another matter. To me, respect is about treating our people as human beings with needs, aspirations and fears - not as interchangeable parts that can be used up and thrown out.Respect doesn't

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In his book, Paul Hirsch says, "If the firm is free to sack its managers at will, it can no longer expect the same levels of commitment, involvement and caring from its own employees."To create commitment, I trust and respect my team members and am deeply committed to their welfare. In fact, where such values were not in place any other things managment does are seen as merely empty gestures.from

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Manchester United played out a 0-0 draw with Newcastle. Football superstars perform so naturally and so instinctively. They let it happen, let it go. They look at the target and shoot. And the ball goes in. Often, in my opinion, the results are works of art. Asking Wayne Rooney to re-create that overhead kick goal against Manchester City would be like begging Leonardo to paint another Mona Lisa.

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Grace listed in her blog a compilation of romantic places in Singapore which included Fort Canning (A favourite love haunt spot), spa botanica and a romantic date out to esplanade. I found great variety in the settings women find romantic. Where one preferred a moonlight sail on a fishing junk and a big tub with bath oils, another yearned for a couple massage and the Taj Mahal.I think the

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"Remember: no one can make you feel inferior without your consent," Paul Low reminded me about the memorable Eleanor Roosevelt quote.Though I am secure in myself - I trust my way - I consciously remind myself not to become arrogant in my self-confidence.There are bullies at all levels of an organization; unfortunately some are quite successful and are thought of as a confident individual. But

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My aunt has been diagnosed with cancer, and yet she has kept her mind generally clear of negative thoughts or bitterness. I am amazed how vibrant and energetic she remains in spite to the threat to her life. Wasn't it Helen keller who exemplified a great attitude towards life's hard times. Blind and deaf since birth, she became a dynamic source of inspiration as an adult. She noted that when 1

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